Wednesday 15 October 2014

Bucket List- 10 years to complete



On Wednesday the 15th of October 2014, which is the day I completed the bucket list that myself and Suzy (Live Life Healthy) are planning to complete in 10 years. Hopefully we will add more to the list and tick all the things off as quickly as we can and I'm looking forward to have things to look forward to.

Tarris takes on the world- the bucket list
  • Go to Australia
  • Live in another country with Suzy
  • Learn to drive a car and a motorbike
  • Get a Volkswagen type 2
  • Do a roadtrip around Australia and Europe
  • Go the the burning man festival
  • Sleep on a beach
  • Travel to every continent
  • Learn another language
  • Go skydiving, bungee jumping and paragliding
  • Fall in love
  • Spend more time in Berlin
  • Get my scar covered with a rose tattoo
  • Climb to Machu Picchu and then once at the top sing Machu Picchu
  • Learn to surf
  • Move out and live with friends
  • Attend La Tomatina
  • See the northern lights
  • Go to Egypt and see the pyramids
  • Go to Coachella at least once
  • Spend new years eve in New York
  • Visit Iguazu Falls
  • Ride in a hot air balloon
  • Go zorbing
  • Explore a cave
  • Visit Stonehenge
  • Attend the Loi Krathong festival
  • Go to Jugo Kudani monkey park
  • Run in the colour run
  • Go to the tunnel of love in Klevan Ukraine
  • Go to Oktoberfest in Germany
  • Island hopping in Thailand
  • Attend the full moon party
  • Take a trip to Hawaii
  • Visit Ireland and walk through fields, visit the pubs and visit family
  • Watch the sunrise on the Lincoln steps
  • Go to Graceland
  • Walk through Japan's tunnel of lights
  • Go skiing in Austria
  • Scuba dive at the Great Barrier Reef
  • Attend Holi festival in India
  • Witness a solar eclipse
  • Sunbath on the pink sand on Ellafonisi Beach, Crete, Greece

Wednesday 1 October 2014

1st of October playlist



I've always found something really fascinating with Halloween. I like the idea of dressing up as something different whether that be overly frighting or just something cute that you wouldn't normally wear. I love the horror, the old school films where teens are being chased with a chainsaw or a young girl is being possessed by a demon spirit (just throwing this out there, The Exorcist is the one horror movie in the entire world that scared me to death, I literally can't watch it without crying like a small child but yeah anyways back to films). I just really enjoy Halloween so I thought to get you in the mood for it, I'd make a playlist of songs that will make you scared, excited and want to get out your red lipstick and cover your face in talcum powder.

This Is Halloween (Music box version)- Danny Elfman
The Witch- The Sonics
(I've got) Nowhere to run- The More-Tishans
Love will tear us apart- Joy Division
Heads Will Roll- Yeah Yeah Yeahs
I put a spell on you (Cover)- The Kills
Killer Queen- Queen
Psycho Killer- Talking Heads
Seven Wonders- Fleetwood Mac
Black Magic Woman- Fleetwood Mac
Glory and Gore- Lorde
Creep- Radiohead
House Of The Rising Sun- Lauren O'Connor
Special Death- Mirah
Seven Devils- Florence and The Machine
Scary Monsters and Super Creeps- David Bowie
She's a Zombie Now- The Meteors
Witchy Woman- Eagles
La La La song- James S Levine

I hope you all have a happy halloween.


Monday 8 September 2014

Summer is ending, Autumn is beginning

Summer is ending, Autumn is beginning playlist



Nirvana - Heart Shaped Box Lullaby
Modest Mouse- Polar Opposites
Bryan Adams- Summer of 69
You + Me- You and Me
Cat Power- Sea of Love
Daughter- Get Lucky
City and Colour- Northern Wind
Kodaline- All I Want
Eagles- Hotel California
The Black Keys- Little Black Submarines
The Mamas and Papas- California Dreamin
Death Cab for Cutie- Underneath the Sycamore
Arctic Monkeys- Only Ones Who Know (Rain)
Bon Iver- Woods
The 1975- Robbers
The XX- Missing
Ben Howard- Only Love
Iron & Wine- Flightless Bird/American Mouth
Mighty Oaks- Just One Day
The National- Green Gloves
First Aid Kit- My Silver Lining
Max Frost- White Lies
GROUPLOVE- Spun
Manic Street Preachers- AutumnSong







Thursday 7 August 2014

My guide to Interrailing



It's been a while since I've written a blog but I've been pretty busy... travelling around Europe... Yeah.
I spent around three weeks to a month travelling from city to city and it was the most amazing experience.

We started out in Amsterdam and after spending 3 crazy days of going to the sex museum, exploring along the canals, going to Anne Frank's house, awkwardly going into a coffee shop and watching Holland play in the world cup, we headed to Berlin. Now this was the first time we actually used our interrailing pass and it was probably one of the better journeys we had, no stops and we had a seat! When we arrived in Berlin, we met our beautiful roommates and from there we just had a wonder round a city so full of history and life.
 We spent most of our time in Berlin looking at the amazing street art in the east side gallery and in the squats on the east side. We also got to quick look at the club and music scene there which was so completely different to places i'd been before, so underground, secret and amazing. Luckily, we were also in Berlin for the world cup when Germany won 7-0 and the city went mental and being able to experience that was insane.I have to say I've completely fallen for Berlin and I could have stayed another 3 or 4 days, I felt like there was so much more to see and learn about, however we left and got a train to Prague which was probably the worst train journey... being kicked out our seats by a Chinese family and having to sit on the floor for what felt like 100 hours but after all that shit we arrived in Prague. It was such a beautiful city, but I felt like because it was so much smaller than the others I would have rather spent more time in them. However, saying that Prague was lovely,it's the first city we had where it was actually hot! It was pretty chill, sitting by the river overlooking the old churches and cathedrals, finding a pop up bar which played the best dance music, drinking ridiculously cheap beer and cider and just being able to relax. I also really enjoyed the John Lennon wall, all the different pieces of art work and quotes from people all over the world was really touching and sweet.

 Next stop from Prague, Budapest. This city was in my top three of favourite places on this trip. Honestly it was fab, the first day wasn't the best but I soon got over my bad mood when we met some lovely people and went to one of Budapest's ruin bars which were the coolest places I've been to. The next day we explored the city some more and it was amazing weather so it just made the place look so much more attractive and appealing, and during the night we finally got a better look round the club which was under our hostel and it was amazing, the underground room was my favorite by far but there is no way you could stay in there for more than twenty minutes as it was just too hot.
The next day involved us trying to move whilst also feeling like shit and being hungover to fuck and we made our way to Zagreb, Croatia. This journey was by far the worst after being delayed, moved onto a coach, moved back onto a train and then stopped for 3 hours because of passport control, but it did have the best views so at least it was pretty. We arrived in Zagreb and went straight to sleep after the ordeal we just had to go through.
The next day was us exploring the city, going to the museum of broken relationships which I loved, planning our trips to other places and just loving life.
The next few days was us going to the Plitvice Lakes and onto Split.
Split was exactly what I need at this point in the trip, bearing in mind we were in city after city and it was fab just to be able to get on a bikini and chill on the beach without a care in the world and I actually got a bit of a tan which was lovely to not look like something out of twilight next to my very very tanned friends. It was so nice and chilled in Split but by recommendation by one of the managers at my work, we got on a ferry and made our way to Hvar and had one of the best nights of the trip, talking to randomers about tomorrowland, dancing on a beach and living like we were a bunch of rich kids really.
Until disaster struck and the Apocalypse came and nearly destroyed my life... one of the biggest storms I've ever seen came over the island making it basically impossible to get off the island as there were no ferries coming over, but eventually we made it back to Split, sort of alive. We then made our way to Italy, first Rome then Florence. Rome was amazing, we did stay in quiet a scary place but the city was amazing. I have to say it was even better because I got to wonder around this place with one of my oldest friends, it made my whole trip to Rome so much better. After eating too much pizza, pasta and gelato we made our way to Florence, my third favourite place I visited. Florence was so beautiful, romantic and peaceful. Yes, we stayed in a shit heap but the city made up for that and more, watching the sunset on the top of a hill which over looked the city was one of my favourite moments and really brought into perspective how much I've enjoyed travelling and how much beauty I'd seen on this trip. We also got the chance to have a quick trip to Pisa which was hilarious, having the obvious tourist photo by the tower and trying to get the best ones we could.
After that, we made our way back to Rome for the last night out and last day of travelling. We spent this night on a random pub crawl which was a laugh. The next day involved me trying very hard to stay alive and to not slip into a coma... I did a pretty good job. We spent the last day walking around Rome, eating some more pizza and getting ready for the journey home. I have to say travelling around Europe was the most incredible experience of my life and I will never forget the things I've learnt and the moments I had in some of the most beautiful cities in the world. Overall I had the greatest time of my life and would recommend it to everyone, if you're thinking about it, just do it.

Now that I've actually been I can give a bit of advice on what to bring and do...

  • Talk to people. Seriously, just start conversations with people on the trains/buses/ferries/whatever you're getting around in, you start talking to people and find out the most interesting stories, opinions or you might just meet someone hilarious who will make the journey go faster.
  • Make sure you have an adapter. I forgot mine and it was just awkward.
  • Save. Shit is expensive in Europe and I basically lived like a tramp for a month. Make sure you budget, then budget more money, it's always decent to have some spare cash.
  • Stay away from watermelon vodka.
  • This one is important... make sure you go with people you get on with. Large groups can be good for going out at night but in my opinion, the smaller amount of people the better. Two or three people would be perfect. 
  • Don't over pack, just bare in mind you'll have to carry all your stuff around with you.
  • Be organised but be free. It's good to have some stuff planned and have your important documents and passport with you but apart from that you should do what you want. Exploring and adventuring makes the trip so worthwhile and personal as you make your own memories in the different random places you find.
  • Take loads of pictures. Yeah everyone will hate you for it when you put them on social media but fuck them you should show off your trip and make memories.
  • Write a journal during your travels. It helps you remember everything and is something you can look back on.
  • Reserve trains. If you don't like slumming it on the floor next to the toilet then this is for you. 
  • If you go to Budapest, stay in Instant Groove. Do it.


And basically, that's my guide to my time interrailing. I can't really get grips with reality right now, going back to work, being on the tube, seeing my family, not sharing a room with 4 complete strangers but it's made me realise how much more I want to explore. So bring on Australia 2015.

Good vibes only man.

Thursday 10 April 2014

So what are you doing with your life?!

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I haven't blogged in ages so I thought I'd talk about something that has been playing on my mind and something I'm constantly reminded of by people who are ignorant to the fact that their words and views are actually having an effect on me even though they are probably in the same position. Today I'm going to be talking about life and the question of what am I going to do with mine.

So I'm nineteen years old and I've been out of education for a year and a bit. Since then I've been working jobs I don't really want, just so I can get some money and through the process of doing this work try and work out what I wanted to do with my life. Now in today's society it's expected that after school or college that teenagers go to university and from there get degrees and then get a great job that pays amazing and you then get married, have children and die with your husband or wife by your side, and that's how life is meant to be. However, if you choose to get a job after school and don't go into further education then you're a bit of a misfit, a fail, someone who will live with their parents till their thirty, won't make new friends and lose touch with old ones, someone who will have to put up with the bad pay because they can't get another job, a job they might actually want because they aren't qualified or haven't been given a chance, someone who will wake up when they are fifty and ask themselves what did I do with my life because they were asked when they were sixteen to decide what they were going to do with their lives. The thought that might happen to me is terrifying.

And this thought is fueled by people who go to university or distant family members who constantly ask me, 'So what you doing with your life Grace?, Got your dream job? Worked out what you're going to be doing for the rest of your life?' No I haven't realised what I'm doing with my life because for starters I'm young, I'm not going to decide what i'm doing with my life at this age because in two years time, I might change my mind. Another reason is how some of the people saying this to me are people who went to university because 'I thought that's was what you're meant to do' and didn't actually want to go, so they are just as clueless as me except they will be in a shit load of debt. Now I'm not saying university is a bad choice, it really isn't, I just feel if you don't really know what you want to do then don't go because you feel you need to or because you feel you should get a degree under your belt.

I'm sure everyone in their life has had this crippling thought but I feel that something needs to be done about it, more opportunities and less judgement from older people who have their life together or people who point me out and say to their young children, 'Do well in school so you don't end up like her'. Yes, I have two jobs which I don't mind doing, not my favourite thing to do but at least I'm doing something and trying to work out what i'm doing with my life. 

Rant ended.



Friday 21 February 2014

My consumption (obsession) with shows.



So I’m a lover of TV series. Now this sounds like a pretty normal thing to like, most people like TV shows and it’s a great thing to talk about with others. However, my problem was that it started to affect my normal life, the fictional universe of science teacher turned meth cook, a girl who becomes the mother of dragons and the sex journalist from New York who had the best wardrobe in existence became more important than the real universe. It starts out with watching two episodes and you think wow this is great, I’ll watch one more then I’ll go to bed, but that one more episode turns into four seasons, which turns you into an insomniac with an existential crisis who hasn’t done her English coursework and will later in the term be kick off the course (true story). Now I would like to point out this is an extreme effect of watching too many programme but I used series to escape my real life. During this time, the line between fictional and reality universes becomes very blurry, for example the time I feel asleep in a class and as my teacher woke me, I called her ‘The Doctor’ (if you don’t watch Doctor Who, that will make no sense and also... watch Doctor Who.) Unknown to me, I was suffering from depression and as a way to forget that fact I felt completely useless and ugly compared to all my friends and peers, I’d watch something. Now I only realised I had a over consumption of fictional series problem when I finished a season and realised I’d have to wait another year for the next one to come out, I literally felt like my life had no purpose and I suddenly realised I had no motivation to do anything. This wasn’t because there wasn’t another season but because I was suffering from a mental illness. Now I would like to explain that yes, watching shows is great, they can inspire you, open your imagination, and show all the possible clothing or music you could be wearing and listening to, but if shows are taking over your life and making you feel never want to go outside ever again, then you probably have a problem you’re avoiding. My problem was my depression and the realisation of it; yours could just be your maths homework, these problems get replaced by the ones of the character you’re in love with on that show you’re watching, this is not good and you lose track of reality. My advice is to remember, everything must end, every show has a last episode and season (unless there is a hideous spinoff) and that’s life! However, if that thought makes you feel dead inside then at least there is the internet and millions of other people who like the same shows as you, people you can talk to about your favourite season or that bitch who you hate on that episode where someone ended up in hospital. My fictional addiction is now a controlled consumption, I watch shows because I want to but not to escape from my own life, I also think about the fact I’d probably be dead in a fictional world full of war, poverty and alien attacks... so be grateful that you only have to worry about your bills or teachers rather than concerning yourself with thoughts of the future apocalyptic. So go outside, see your friends explore and learn and while you do that, I’ll watch another episode of 24. 

Saturday 15 February 2014

Bad Habits



This is random but here you go, my bad habits and a nice little playlist.

New posts soon.

Friday 7 February 2014

Friday Playlist- A Week Before Valentines Day.



Hey everyone, so it's officially a week till valentines day and I decided to make a playlist for people in relationships, for people who are single or people like me who just want to listen to good music to either think about valentines day, forget it or if you're like me and just want to listen to good music.


1. Friday I'm In Love- The Cure
2. Still In Love- Cat Power
3. Love Will Tear Us Apart- Joy Division
4.  You're Not The One- Sky Ferreira
5. 5 Years Time- Noah And The Whale
6. Green Fuz- The Cramps
7.  I Love You- Spacemen 3
8. Cosmic Love- Florence And The Machine
9. I Will Follow You Into The Dark- Death Cab For Cutie
10.  Wouldn't It Be Nice- The Beach Boys
11. Girls Like Me- TV Girls
12. There She Goes- The La's
13. Here Comes Your Man- Pixies
14. I Put A Spell On You- The Kills
15. Drunk In Love- Beyonce
16.  Hollaback Girl- Gwen Stefani
17.  That's The Way Boys Are- Best Coast
18. Other Girls- Eux Autres
19. Superstar- Sonic Youth
20. Happy Now- No Doubt
21. Since U Been Gone- Tokyo Police Club
22. I Want The One I Can't Have- The Smiths
23. Walking After You- Foo Fighters
24. You're Not Pretty But You Got it Goin' On- Band Of Skulls
25. Heart Of Glass- Blonde


And there we have it, if you want a valentines day playlist but also don't but want to listen to good music... listen to this playlist and I hope you liked it!

New post coming soon.



Monday 3 February 2014

Just Giving Fun Raising

Hey everyone, today's post is going to be about an amazing girl who I had the pleasure of working with. My friend Hannah and her friend are doing something amazing, courageous and so kind for a girl called Cecilia. Cecilia is undergoing radiotherapy treatment, which means she will lose all of her hair. Now my friend Hannah and Katie are shaving their hair off to support Cecilia, while they are doing this they are also raising money for the charity of Cecilia's choice, the Evelina Children's Hospital.

Now what i'm going to ask of you is to donate. Please donate to an amazing cause that saves hundreds of children's lives every single day, but they need your support!
Please donate, small or big, every donation counts and is needed.
Just think about this amazingly brave girls and keep Cecilia in your thoughts and prayers.

Now click donate to read more about this great fundraising, to donate and read more about the cause.

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Thanks for reading, and there will be more posts up soon!
Thank you to everyone who donated, it means a lot!

Saturday 1 February 2014

The Happiness Diaries- Day 11


So today is the last in the series of posts I did on happiness and how it can be achieved, things to do to make you feel happy and what about if you're unhappy and how to recognise it's seriousness and how to get help.


Today's post is going to be simple and will basically tell you one more thing you can do to achieve happiness (in my opinion) (I should have put a disclaimer about that) (These things make me happy, and may make you happy) (I hope they do) (I'm going to stop typing like this)

Last thing you can do to make yourself feel better and happy is adventuring. Now I have mentioned this before but on Wednesday, I went for an adventure. I sometimes get these nights where I don't and can't sleep so I stay up all night which didn't make me very happy but then I realised that I just got paid so a few hours later, I got washed and dressed and headed to central London. Now I live in London but that doesn't mean I live with the Queen or my house is the London Eye, I live in London but about half an hour away from central London, which is a lot better than where I live and so better for exploring and adventuring around. So I went all round London, spent a lot of money (wouldn't recommend doing that on adventures, means you have to walk round with shopping bags) and cleared my head. It was really busy in parts of London but some part were peaceful and quiet and a great way to just relax and get you out of your own head. I guarantee you, if you're stressed, bored, unhappy, going for a walk and adventuring will make you feel better.

If not, look at this picture of these huskies...

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So that is officially it!
My last Happiness Diaries post, however I won't stop posting. I'll still be blogging and will be blogging about everything so make sure you stay tuned and share these posts!

Hopefully you enjoyed these posts, and remember they won't be going anywhere, so if you get unhappy give them a read and do some of the things I write about.

Hope you enjoyed this, and i'll be blogging more soon!

Wednesday 29 January 2014

The Happiness Diaries- Day 10

Today's post is going to be about things to do to when you're sad. Today i'm in a really rubbish mood so I have actually done these things today.


  • Don't listen to Bob Dylan or Lou Reed.
  • Watch Innuendo Bingo, if you don't know what that is, you're seriously missing out.
  • Tumblr search 'Taylor Swift.'
  • Watch Napoleon Dynamite
  • Drink tea. Lots and lots of tea.
  • As much as you might not want to, go outside, go for a long walk, adventure around where you live.
  • If it's raining and you can't go out, build a fort.
  • Make a playlist of songs that suit your mood.
  • Look at pictures of Ryan Gosling.
  • Bake cakes.
  • Eat cakes.
  • Talk to someone about how you feel.
  • Wear a massive jumper.
  • Organise your room, redecorate, put up pictures, fairy lights and anything you want to put up.
  • Sleep.
  • Remember Leonardo Dicaprio doesn't have an oscar either.
  • There is always tumblr.
  • Read.
  • Remember... there is always pizza.
There you go, today's very small post but I should probably go do some of these things.
New post tomorrow, hope you liked this!

Monday 27 January 2014

The Happiness Diaries- Day 9


Hey everyone!
My post today is going back to music because for me, music makes me feel 100% better when i'm feeling low or just icky. Also recently I rediscovered bands, songs and albums I used to listen to all the time or listen to them when I was younger and it has made me so happy and reminiscent of old memories so I decided to do a playlist of music that makes me happy.


  • 42 Song Pop Punk Mashup- So I heard this on tumblr a week or so ago and I can't stop listening to it, it reminds me of putting on a stupid amount of Kohl eyeliner, when my parents stopped calling me Grace and started calling me Alice Cooper (If you don't know who he is, shame. Shame on you.) This track just reminded me of my HUGE fail of an attempt of being emo because for god sake, I have blonde curly hair and my room is pink, Winnie the Pooh is more emo than me, but the memories this brought up were great.
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  • White Lies- Strangers- This whole album is amazing. Pure and simple. White Lies have always been one of my favourite bands, they are so underrated and original. The memories that come up when I listen to them is being very drunk at Reading 2013 seeing them with my other very drunk friends singing and dancing my face off, they are a great live band and their songs are all great. Go listen to the whole album Ritual.

  • Hellogoodbye- Here In Your Arms- This song is the first single I bought with my own money at Woolworths (oh god Woolworths, the best place in the entire world, the place you could get everything you ever needed... and it's been 7 years since there was a Woolworth shop, bet you feel old now.) The moment I saw and heard this song on the TV I feel in love and run to buy it, it reminds me of playing it on repeat for about 5 months.
  • Gwen Stefani- Love Angel Music Baby- This album is my childhood summed up. Gwen Stefani was my idol and still kinda is, every song on this album is a hit and when I got this album for Christmas, I was the happiest 10 year old and tried to convince my mum to let me cut my hair and dye it blonde so I could be her. Safe to say, mumma Harris was having none of it but I had my album so life wasn't so bad.

  • Alice Cooper- School's out- Now I've mentioned this man already in the post so if you didn't know who he was then, you know now. I've been listening to this song due to the fact i'm feeling nostalgic for my high school days (It was a brief moment of lack of judgement, but i'm unemployed having a mid life crisis, when you're at school you don't have that!) This song is just perfect and reminds everyone of summer and for some reason it reminds me of Grease but that's probably just me and my twisted mind set.
  • Stevie Nicks- Edge Of Seventeen- I blame my dad for this, a few nights ago after coming home from a work prize giving and a lot of free drinks, he came in singing this amazing song (and using the bread bin as a drum so he could drum very loudly the tune... at half 1 in the morning.) This song just reminds me of my music transformation after watching School Of Rock, I used to listen to the top 40 chart and had basically every 'Now This Is What I Call Music whatever number' albums which are still good no matter what anyone says, but after watching this film I was brought into the world of rock and roll and with the help of my dad, a secret lover of all that is rock, he introduced me to such bands as Led Zeppelin, Pink Floyd, The Who, Deep Purple, The Doors and this amazing woman Stevie Nicks. From then on my music taste has become the one thing I've prided myself on.

  • Mumford and Sons (And Friends)- The Chain (Cover)- This reminds me of summer and how amazing live music is in the heat and how much I love festivals. Fleetwood Mac are an amazing band and I feel this cover really respects them and this song has it's own twist without ruining it. I can't really articulate my feelings on this because it would be something like... afholgbwgfwehibjkaasjkajkafjjavjajagbnk. 

That's it! The memories playlist of songs that make me very happy. Hope you liked it and I'll be doing another post tomorrow.

Sunday 26 January 2014

The Happiness Diaries- Day 8


Today's post in going to be simple but powerful in that it will restore your faith in humanity and in doing that will make you feel better. It will also give you some inspiration to do good for other people which in turn will make you feel better!


















African American doctors attempting to save the life of a Klu Klux Klan member.



Timely reminder that people are inherently good. 

Today's post is pretty simple but i'm currently in a KFC food coma so I write something better tomorrow promise.
Hope you liked this post!

Friday 24 January 2014

The Happiness Diaries- Day 7

It's 5:34 am and I'm wide awake so I thought i'd do my blog post now. Today's happiness diaries is going to be about self esteem and liking yourself. These things are very hard to achieve in today's society but I've thought of three ways you can bring up your self esteem and make yourself happy by doing these things.

1. Do what you want.
This sounds vague and could be misinterpreted, when I say do what you want, I don't mean go out, do drugs and pull a Justin Bieber, I mean with ideas of dressing how you want because you want to, not because some fashion/lifestyle magazine matches your figure up with a piece of fruit or inanimate object then pairs you an outfit that would suit your shape. Seriously, ignore it, wear what you like whether that is a huge red furry hat or just jeans and converse. At first, you might get some weird looks from strangers which might make you question your choice of outfit and make you feel bad about yourself but who cares about a complete randoms opinion?... You won't when you keep this up, people respect people who are themselves and not pretending to be something they aren't, trust me, I know so many fakers and people who pretend to be something they're not, it's transparent and obvious so you might as well be yourself because it's less effort and people will love you for it. Oh and if they don't, then at least you know to stay away from those people because they are not your friends but I can guarantee you will find people who will like you for you. This rule also applies for music, especially for music, there is nothing I hate more than people who pretend to like certain types of music because 'it's so cool, oh look how hip I am yay indie wat', so same rules apply, if you like a band, listen to them and if people laugh at you because you like this band then once again WHO CARES, it makes you happy so listen to it. Do what you want and with this rule type mantra you will see your self esteem and confidence boost and become happier within yourself which leads me to my next point...

2. Liking who you are, inside and out.
In this society, people are apparently supposed to look a certain way and if you don't look this way, you're a freak, outcast and not worth of people's time... this is bullshit. Everyone is different whether it's the way you look or who you are and you should embrace it. Now I know from experience this is easier said then done, we live in the world of photoshop and 'perfection' but no one is perfect, maybe the Olsen Twins, ok maybe not they are very pretty though, anyways i'm off point. No one is perfect, everyone has insecurities and doubts about themselves. During my time of Cognitive Behavior therapy I learnt a method that helps build up your self esteem and puts your thoughts of self hatred because of your appearance into perspective, this works for both looks and personality dismorphia, so go get a piece of paper, pen and a ruler. Now draw a line in the middle of the paper and at one end of the line put 'Good' and the other put 'Bad'. Now put a mark where you think you'd go on this spectrum. Then go to one end of the line, best place is to start with 'Bad' and write all the worst, most disgusting, horrible people you can think of. Do the same with 'Good' and think of lovely, great people, these people can be famous or people you know. Once you've completed the spectrum of what you see as 'Good' and 'Bad' reevaluate your position on the line because i'm sure you will move up towards 'Good' unless you're an evil mastermind. Doing this exercise will make you rethink who you are as a person and your thoughts of yourself, my use of this exercise meant I put myself near the bad part of the line then I put down Hitler, Katie Price and a girl I know who is horrible and then I changed and put myself near Florence Welch and Beyonce. It makes you rethink and these negative thought processes will change into positive thoughts. What I will admit is that I'm still insecure with how I look, I do however like some parts of my looks for example, my eyes but I know for certain that I'm a good, kind, lovely, friendly person who shouldn't think of herself as bad or horrible because it's not true. Honestly, looks fade anyways, so all those girls and boys you can think of and go 'Oh I wish I looked like that' will one day be ugly and might not be as good a person, so like yourself for who you are and be yourself. That sounds so cheesy but it's true. Now for the last step...

3. Follow in the way of Kanye West.
This guy loves himself and doesn't care what anyone thinks. If everyone had this mentality, the world would be a better place. So here is some West quotes that will keep up this mentality.





























































So there it is, a really early morning blog from a sleep deprived Grace, hope you enjoy it and it helped!

Wednesday 22 January 2014

The Happiness Diaries- Day 6



Today's post on how to make you feel and be happier is going to involve my favourite thing to do... read.

Reading books can make you feel better and let you escape reality for a few hours and here are some books I've read and that are great to read and escape, so sit somewhere quiet with a cup of tea or coffee and read yourself into a good mood.


  • All the Harry Potter books- JK Rowling
  • The Fault In Our Stars- John Green
  • All Game Of Thrones books- George R. R.Martin
  • The Host by Stephanie Meyer
  • The Perks of Being a Wallflower by Stephen Chbosky
  • The Great Gatsby by F. Scott Fitzgerald
  • The Picture of Dorian Gray by Oscar Wilde
  • Flowers In The Attic (And the rest of the series)- V.C. Andrews
  • Morrissey- Autobiography
  • The Catcher in the Rye by JD Salinger
  • To Kill a Mockingbird by Harper Lee
  • Romeo and Juliet- William Shakespeare
  • Brick Lane-  Monica Ali
  • Eleanor & Park- Rainbow Rowell
  • IT- Alexa Chung
  • The Series Of Unfortunate Events- Lemony Snicket (Daniel Handler)
  • Matilda- Roald Dahl
  • Atonement- Ian McEwan 
And that's it, just a quick list of great books to read that will make you feel better!

New post on The Happiness Diaries tomorrow, hope you enjoy this post.

Tuesday 21 January 2014

The Happiness Diaries- Day 5

Day five of the Happiness Diaries and this post is going to be about a subject that certain people feel uncomfortable talking about, a subject people ignore and put it down to 'a bad day' and a subject that needs more attention. The subject I'm going to be talking about today is Depression.

A common misconception of 'Depression' is when someone is sad because they had a fight with their girlfriend or boyfriend, they didn't get the job they wanted or they just felt sad. Now this emotion some people think of as Depression is just the natural human emotion of sadness. Now real depression is nothing like that, anyone can have Depression, the happiest person you know could have it, the person you speak to everyday who seems to have their life in order could have it and this is why it needs to be talked about more because the most ordinary person in the world could get this disease and be suffering alone. Now, I know a lot about this illness because I have it. I know the pain of people who have it or the people who are no longer with their family or their friends because they committed suicide, I've been to those dark places and I've tried to harm myself and I know it's a very serious problem that can't be put down to 'Oh, you're just having a bad day, you'll feel better if you got out of bed'. This issue that many people don't see as an issue is the third leading cause of death for 15 to 24 year olds, every 30 seconds someone somewhere takes their own life because of Depression and it's happening every single day. This needs to stop.

The stigma of Depression in society is ignorance, it doesn't understand how people feel, what people go through, it pushes the problem under the rug and leaves people who suffer from this sickness on their own. We live in a society where if someone breaks their arm, everyone runs to sign their cast and sends them get well soon cards and we live in a society where is someone says they are have Depression, everyone looks the other way, they are segregated from people they thought were their friends, they are not taken seriously, told to 'Pull yourself together, push past this, you're not depressed you're just lazy' and made to feel stupid and incompetent, people who have depression, because of society and it's ignorant view, are left feeling like the illness, the sickness that they have is not worth of being deemed as an illness. You wouldn't blame someone who broke their arm for doing it on purpose,saying it's their fault, so why should you put blame and shame on people who are Depressed.

We need to be honest, we need to speak up and accept others and accept ourselves. We need to join together and fight against the reason why you're best friend won't come out with you, why she can't even get out of bed, why she can't eat, drink or sleep. We need to make the illness that effects 17 million people a year not a sign of weakness, but a sign of strength, that the people who suffer this disease have woken up in the morning alive, we should celebrate that courage and help them along their way to beat this.

If you're going through Depression, you're ok, you're not weak, you're not unworthy, you're sick and it's an issue not an identity! It's a part of life and it might drag you down to the darkest places imaginable but being dragged down means you can be pulled back up. Pain shouldn't define you, it should give you hope and faith that things will get better, you won't always feel like this and this message needs to be passed on and as a society we need to speak up whether we have Depression ourselves or we know someone who is suffering, we need to have the confidence and the pride in ourselves to admit it...

My name is Grace Harris and I suffer from Depression.

We need to admit it so we can get help and get back to living life. But we also need to admit that we need help from others, and these others need to identify this problem and get rid of this ignorance and open their eyes to this sickness and join together and help.
Accept yourself for who you are and don't be ashamed to have Depression. Tell someone so we can stand strong together.


If you are suffering from Depression, feeling suicidal or just need someone to talk to, here are helpful and amazing organisations that will help you.

Also if any of you do need someone to talk to my tumblr ask box is always open if you click here.

I hope you liked this post and there will be another tomorrow.

Monday 20 January 2014

The Happiness Diaries- Day 4.

Day four of The Happiness Diaries and today's post is going to be a random list of different things you can do to make you feel better and feel happy. It can be things to do on your own or with other people but each one has been tested (by me) to make you feel better!


  • Read any book written by John Green.
  • Give yourself a makeover. If you're not wearing makeup, look up makeup tutorials and try it out. If you are wearing makeup, take it off and be natural.
  • Cut, dye and change your hair, be extreme because why not?! It grows back, don't worry!
  • Go through your wardrobe, get rid of items you don't wear or want anymore, give those clothes to charity and you'll definitely feel better about yourself.
  • Exercise. Go for a run or the gym or just go for a walk, you'll realise endorphins and will feel amazing.
  • Watch trashy, cheesy tv... there is nothing like laughing at the Kardashians or Honey Boo Boo.
  • Make a playlist of your favourite songs.
  • Research and find new music, refresh your taste and find new bands/artists that suit your mood.
  • Clean your room, move things around, get rid of things, change it up and maybe redecorate.
  • Go on an adventure whether you get on a train or bus or just walk round the place you live to find new places. Bring a camera and take pictures of your adventure.
  • Make a scrapbook, use the pictures you took on your adventure and put it in this book.
  • Eat pizza because it's amazing. Enough said.
  • Have a nap, sleep is the best and can refresh and reinvigorate you and make you feel better.

So that's it, a quick easy list of things to do to make you feel better!
There will be another post tomorrow, and I hope you liked this post.

Sunday 19 January 2014

The Happiness Diaries- Day 3

My day today has been spent sleeping, eating and watching a ridiculous amount of films. Having lazy days can be the best thing to put you in a good mood whether you do it on your own or do it with a friend or friends.

The only thing to do on lazy days is watch as many films as you possible can, so i'm going to list some of my favourite films to watch on lazy days and the best films to watch on Netfilx (if you have it) (which you should) (it's amazing).

My favourite films to watch on lazy days
  • Clueless
  • Eternal Sunshine Of A Spotless Mind
  • Like Crazy
  • Inception
  • The Bling Ring
  • The Little Mermaid
  • Basically any Disney film you can get your hands on (Have a Disney movie marathon)
  • The Breakfast club
  • All the Harry Potter films
  • The Hunger Games
  • Step Brothers
  • Nowhere Boy
  • Uptown Girl
  • Adventureland
  • Charlie And The Chocolate Factory (original version)
  • The Great Gatsby 
  • Little Miss Sunshine
  • Silver Linings Playbook
  • 50/50
So that's my list and now for the good films to watch on Netflix.
Comedy
  • The Truman Show
  • Kevin Hart: I'm A Grown Little Man
  • Ghostbusters
  • Pretty In Pink
  • Breakfast At Tiffany's
  • Sleepwalk With Me
  • Grease
  • Forrest Gump
Drama
  • The Cider House Rules
  • You Me and Everyone We Know
  • Love Actually
  • Lost In Translation
  • Following
  • Manhattan
  • Requiem For A Dream (only watch this if you're feeling insanely serious, or you want to stop drinking/doing drugs)
  • Archie's Final Project
  • The Details
  • Being John Malkovich
  • Brokeback Mountain
  • Whats Eating Gilbert Grape

Independent
  • Fargo
  • Submarine
  • But I'm A Cheerleader
  • Pulp Fiction
  • Memento
  • Trainspotting
  • Klown
  • Sleepwalk With Me
  • Heathers
  • Outsourced
  • Donnie Darko
  • The Pianist
  • Punch Drunk Love
  • American Psycho
  • PI
  • Party Monster
And that's my list of films that are great to watch on a lazy day which will put you in a good mood and make you happy!
Hope you like this post and there will be another tomorrow.

Saturday 18 January 2014

The Happiness Diaries- Day 2

Today's post about happiness is going to involve the device that 20% of the world's population, that is over 1 billion people use, and that you're currently using now to read this on... yep that's right, the internet.

Now the internet is mad but great, and can improve your mood and bring happiness in these simple easy steps...

1. Youtube
The site that has over 120,000,000 videos, there are over 140 views for every person on Earth and 4 billion videos are viewed a day. Now the reason I'm saying that youtube will make you happy is because of the pure gold that is currently on this website, the rage is amazing, you can watch tutorials on how to do makeup or cats playing piano or men waking up from surgery and seeing his wife for the first time. Oh yeah, and Beyonce. So I'm going to do a mini list of the best videos on this website to make you smile.


  • Seeing her for the first time- this has to be the funniest and sweetest video on here!
  • Youtubers React To Japenese Commercials - watching youtubers react to trippy japenese commercials is hilarious, also watch The Fine Bros other react videos, they are hilarious and some are very interesting and eye opening.
  • Stereotypes (Hipsters vs Chavs)- These videos from the youtube channel I Am Other created by the legend Pharrell Williams are my favourite thing to watch. The hilarious, cool, awesome present Ryan Hall basically goes round asking members of the public questions on a certain subject. What makes these videos so good is the variety of opinions and it's hilarious and fresh. Go watch all of them, I promise you won't regret it!
  • Cat playing piano- I really dislike cats but this is hilarious. Cats on the internet make everyone happy, including me a person who avoids cats like the plague.
  • Cooking with a 3 year old: Slobber carrots and gross barbecue-  Kids on the internet are cute but they are made even cuter when they are the product of John Green. 
  • Lie Witness News (Coachella 2013)- Some hipsters are so annoying so God bless Jimmy Kimmel for outing their annoyingness. 
2. Tumblr
If you've never heard of this website then you probably have friends, a social life and you know activities and that.  Tumblr is the craziest, best, worst, most disturbing, most wonderful and beautiful website ever. In summary, tumblr is a website where you follow blogs and reblog pictures that suit your personality and just pictures you like.  It's a great website to discover new things but also a great website to destroy your mind. If you don't have it, get it! There is some really funny stuff on there which will regain your faith in humanity and is great for procrastinating, but try not to let it suck up your life and leave you with regret and disappointment when you're on it till 4 in the morning. If you do have tumblr, follow me and join the madness.

3. Twitter
Twitter is a great way to basically stalk people. The concept of the website is quiet strange, you're basically sharing your thoughts with the entire world (or your followers). It's quiet a good thing to express yourself on but also like tumblr, it will restore your faith in humanity because people on there are hilarious and here is people you need to follow for that banter.
  • Dylan and Cole Sprouse- They ditched their disney image and became hilarious and so hot.
  • Amanda Bynes- Her tweets are ridiculously wrong but amazing. 
  • JME- He speaks the truth (especially about Big Brother) and it's so funny.
  • So Sad Today- If you have a fucked up sense of humor like myself, follow this account now.
  • Ricky Gervais- His mugshots will make your life.

So enjoy the wonders of the internet and you will feel better!
Hope you enjoyed this post and I'll post a new post tomorrow.